“Accuracy without kindness is too unfeeling to be true. And kindness without accuracy is too
unreal to be felt.”
In Be With, Mike Barnes writes letters to an anonymous long-term caregiver, drawing on his own
years of caring for his mother through the ravages of Alzheimer’s, from moderate through late
Written for harried caregivers who might have time to read two lines, or twenty, or perhaps the
whole thing as a loved one naps, Be With balances candor about the devastations of dementia
with insights into its paradoxical and at-times uncanny enhancements of life, the surprising re-discoveries of what was once thought lost.
Through it all, Barnes emphasizes fellowship and presence. The profound importance of being
From the award-winning author of The Adjustment League, comes a series of simple letters to
whoever needs to read them. Be With is a meditation on the vital -- and often overlooked -- world
of caregivers and those they watch over.